I moved to the Second City in June 2007.
I decided to move in May… I had thought about it before, but well, Chrissy sort of pushed that to a firm yes. I think it may have taken me two weeks to find an apartment, sign a lease, and then move in to said apartment.
I was in Edgewater for about 9 months. 3 of those months I was an unemployed hermit. I only left my apartment for food about once every two weeks. Occasionally I’d head off to the library. Mostly I stayed home in my 11 x 15 studio with one window.
This really wasn’t a healthy situation for me.
Eventually I found gainful employment, and due to Steph’s marriage, was asked to move to Evanston with live with Becca, Mennogirl, and jrosei. There’s two apartments, one on 2nd (mine) and one on 3rd. I actually only live with Becca.
There are a few things I didn’t know about when I moved… The deposit was huge. My half was huge. It was more than my buy-out fee for ending my lease 15 months early (never, never get a 2 year lease). Also, the rent was really cheap, but this was because our building is considered low income (or something near that). I knew it was a co-op, and that we’d own a share in the building. This means attending meetings, assisting with work days, monthly cleaning, and basically being proactive as apart of the building community (as well as planning to be there for a bit longer term).
I acknowledge that I’m a difficult person to live with. I have my quirks. And apparently, I have some sort of mild OCD-neurosis when it comes to the kitchen — the fridge mainly. However, Libby’s assured me, this isn’t a mental quirk, this is normal.
Anyway… moving into this apartment was definitely a healthy and good decision for me. Since Chrissy moved away, I really needed to be around people. More so than just work. So moving in with “the girls” was a good thing for me. We’d all gone to college together. Mennogirl, jrosei and I lived in China together. I knew Becca, but well, honestly we never hung out in college. Living with her has been the first time for me to really get to know her. There have been some challenges — again, this is me acknowledging I can be a difficult person to live with.
With my decision to attend grad school, I decided that I want to move closer to that campus and have a longer commute for work. (Grad school would be in the loop, work is on the northern side of the Northern Territories.) All of the girls, Libby now included (Mennogirl moved down the alley and Libby moved in), knew I had planned on moving for school. My goal was to convince Chrissy to come back to me and we could live together. This is still in negotiations.
Anyway. With the uncertainty of who I’ll be living with, I at least have the neighborhood picked out. Right now I’m focusing on moving down to the Southern Lands of Pilsen. Weiss, who lives there, is assisting in finding some reasonable dwellings. Since Chrissy is being all academic at grad school now, if she were to come back it would be in June. However, after more talks with a handful of people, and more time spent down south, I have been toying with the idea that if for some sad reason Chrissy won’t move back, then I’d be willing to move in March.
I hadn’t mentioned this to my current roommate until last night. I didn’t feel the need to add stress when I really don’t have any of the details worked out. I only told her last night because I just now found out that she will be quitting her job in January and at this point doesn’t have a plan other than to just find work elsewhere. With this information, it felt wrong not letting her know.
Anyway… without letting this post get too long… I’m having an interesting time dealing with this whole living situation. I enjoy the girls, and there are a lot of aspects about the apt that I like. However, I won’t deny that this hasn’t necessarily been my ideal situation. It is definitely better than where I was at in many ways. I’m becoming ready to move on. But as my excitement builds, I feel this dragging guilt. That in some ways I’m a bad person for moving. That I shouldn’t feel so happy to be moving.
It’s my personal decision to move, and I have multiple reasons. I’ve had a small handful of people telling me to move to Pilsen for well over 6 months now. And while I realize that my move will change things, and put Becca into a situation she probably doesn’t want to be in — everything’s sort of raining on my parade. I’ve been in a rainy (and hail-y) parade. It’s no fun.
It’s hard to know where to be. I don’t want my roommates to feel that I am abandoning them. I realize it’s probably hard for them to be supportive of me and excited with/for me when it’s going to bring new challenges to them. But, with risking sounding too selfish, I need this change. The Northern Territories were good for me, but I’m ready to get back into an active social life — just an active life all together. The kittens and I are ready for a new phase.