taking a breather before we even start (the relationship update post)

10 July 2009

So, as a good number of you have noticed, I more than hinted at being smitten with a new guy recently…  Mentioning some good conversations, a good meetup and all that…  And it was going well.  But, well, things are on hold now.

It’s sort of odd to take a break before anything has even begun, but that’s what’s happening.  … And you know, the pink fluffy brain goo and I are okay.  Yeah, well, sure… I’m bummed.  I do like the guy after all.

Basically — without getting into too many details about his situation — he’s got a crazy ex.  Everyone thinks they’ve got one, but no, he really does.  The girl broke into his apartment and waited for him.  She threatened to keep doing it.  Needless to say it’s causing issues.  So while he tries to take care of this problem, and smooth things out with his roommate & friends, whatever was happening between us has been put on hold.

Now, obviously, I won’t be waiting around forever.  But I do want to support him in any way possible and be there for him in the ways he needs me — as a friend.  And honestly, to me, I want my boyfriend to be one of my best friends… you know, the best friend you get to make out with.  So slowing things down right now doesn’t really feel like that big of a deal — I’m still going to get to hang out with him, still going to learn about him.  During that time, things might still keep developing.  If a relationship doesn’t happen — well, yeah, it’d kinda suck ’cause he’s all awesome and hot and all that — but well, hopefully the friendship will last.

Anyway… from the boy: “I’m happy to hear you’d still like to hang out, I was worried you’d be upset about it — and since there isn’t much I can do about it all right now*, that would have sucked”

If I could do anything about it… girl would get slapped with a restraining order… and my fist.**

*as in, there’s not much he can do about this situation happening
**yeah, I sort of get very protective about my friends and family… maybe not momma bear-style (*ahem*@mominreallife), but maybe more badger-style or something…

  • I like the fact that when people think Mama Bear they think of me

    • I sort of giggle when I think about the pride parade… and how you went off on some idiotic dude who blamed the crowds on Diana…. that was awesome.

  • What’s up w/ all you female bloggers and violence? First @freeandflawed and now you. =P

    • I mean… I don’t know about others… but I grew up with an older brother… I sort of had to learn to defend myself… or just be able to take the punches…

      Gotta remember, I am a Quaker… so this could be all talk. 😉 could be… but I wouldn’t risk it.

  • I don’t have an excuse for the violence. I just like punching people.

    • is there a way for me to fav that comment???


  • Scary butch women… ugh! I mean, I’m hardly the manly type, but still… women that look like they can and would beat me up… horrible!

    *asserts himself as Alpha male*

    Hope it works out with ze new boy-o!

    • yeah… I seriously look so intimidating… mmhmm, that’s me.

      … ha! I don’t need muscles. That’s what I’ve got the boy for… I can just borrow his. 🙂

      (And thanks, he’s pretty awesome… so I’m excited about getting to know him better…)

  • Yipes! My boyfriend had a crazy girlfriend who did some pretty psycho things like that… but after they broke up, she was gone. It was just while they were together that was the problem. Ugh, I pity your new guy a bit. And it makes such a crappy situation for you too – but I hope it turns around! If he’s a decent guy – and he sounds like he is – he’ll make every effort to take care of the situation and not use it as an excuse for anything.

    • Yeah, he talked to her last night and she should be gone for a long while now…. which makes me really happy.
      We had originally canceled our date for yesterday, but he ended up calling late last night and we got to talk for a while.. and then we grabbed dinner together tonight. 🙂 So it looks like we’re back to getting to know each other and all that. Still taking things slow physically, but it’s really letting us get to know each other.

      Anyway. Yeah. Things are going well and I’m all excited and smiles and giddy and all that. 🙂

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