This past weekend, as I’ve mentioned, I participated in BlogHer09. Though I was only attending through LobbyCon — a cheaper pass that basically only allowed me into the expo hall and parties — I was excited about attending this event!
The 20sb meet up was amazing, and I assumed BlogHer would be at least just as awesome. What made BlogHer so awesome for me? My 20sb friends who were also there. Yes, I met new people. But overall, I left feeling uneasy about BlogHer as an organization.
When people think about BlogHer or their conferences, they think MommyBloggers — and now I know why. BlogHer seems to have a preference towards the mommies. (Now, I’m going to note: there is a MAJOR difference between a mom who happens to blog and a MommyBlogger.) I realize that yes, the mommies are a very large presence in the BlogHer community. But maybe that’s because BlogHer is catering to them… Maybe. Did I feel that there was really much for me as a 20-something? No.
I don’t know how many times I was asked if I had children by various sponsors in the expo hall. I mean, you have to expect it, but after the 5th time it became annoying. BlogHer does not equal MommyBlogger. But after the conference this past weekend, I could make that confusion too — which is a total shame. I think people don’t realize how much of a huge demographic the 20-somethings are in the blogging community. 20sb alone has over 7,000 members. We are a large voice on the internet. We are an influential group. I wish BlogHer would see that.
Am I going to go to BlogHer10 in New York? Right now I’m saying no. The only thing that would get me to go would be my friends. I have no interest in being surrounded by MommyBloggers*. I don’t want to deal with babies at cocktail parties — or the drama when they’re turned away (even other moms don’t want this either). I don’t want to enter to win a car seat. (I also don’t want to listen to keynotes that don’t have any representation for the 20-something women, or are all about getting blog sponsorships or how to make the text on my blog bold….)
I would love to have a dialogue with BlogHer about being more inclusive for people other than the Mommies. As of now, I don’t feel that I have a voice in that community.
I’m a female, I blog, and I’m not a mommy. I still matter.
*I realize there are MommyBlogger who are really cool people. But as a mob, I’m not that fond of them.
I also want to say that I didn’t hate BlogHer09. I did have fun. But I still feel like they were catering primarily to the Mommies.