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7 July 2010

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  • Jeff

    Um about the whole sleeping with people that’s a little more than casual. You probably shouldn’t get to that point with guys before there is some kind of commitment more than friends.

    I casual date. Not by choice. It fizzles out after 10 days. Meanwhile, the past 4 relationships I’ve had that last more than 10 days it felt like they wanted something from me instead of wanting me.

  • “It’s like saying “I like you enough, but I don’t want to risk it” or “I like you enough to sleep with you, but not to stop sleeping with other people”. ”

    I COMPLETELY agree with this. I HATE casual dating. I was never good at it (which is why I ended up in two relationships with guys I wasn’t really into–but that’s besides the point!) I want a guy to be absolutely crazy about me. And if you’ve gone on enough dates, i feel like a person should know by then if they LIKE you or if they think “yeah, she’s okay…”

    Honestly, BB was trying to play it casual with me and I wasn’t having any of it. Either he’s into me or he’s not (sorry for the cliche, i hate it so much) and so I told him–dude, man up or let me be. As soon as he realized he was going to lose me for playing stupid games, he totally manned up. Maybe you need to start making yourself “unavailable.” I know people will say not to play games, but isn’t he playing games by keeping it ‘casual’?
    .-= imerika´s last blog ..Today is my NEW Day One =-.

    • Erini

      If they’re going to just “keep it casual” then they need to know that they WILL lose me. And you’re right. I should make that more clear up front. I’m all for having fun, but games are completely different.

      All or nothing, right?

  • Ah… casualness! (I can’t use that word without thinking of Casual Raiders… may they burn in hell…)

    I don’t think I’ve ever been in a relationship that could be considered ‘casual’, but probably because a) girls (in my limited experience) keep quite a tight leash on me and b) I’m not sure I actually care enough to keep a casual relationship going.

    I mean, what’s the point? Free sex? Woo…

    (Btw, that’s not to say I’ve wanted casual relationships — just that it’s a topic that’s never, ever come up in any of my relationships!)

    P.S. still no subscribe-to-comments…

    • Erini

      there once was a subscribe-to-comments, but then that plugin got attacked and I was SWAMPED with spam. So I need another plugin.

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