where I talk about dating, again.

23 May 2012

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about, as a blogger, what I should and shouldn’t post online. And while that could cover a whole lot of topics, in particular I’m thinking about dating.

Yesterday I tweeted “I really want to create a pinboard for date ideas and other helpful hints for boys… but I feel like that’s cheating…”

I’ve been working on my These Things Should Happen list, and well, some of the things that I put on there I kinda wouldn’t mind if they were dates. But any time I think about writing about such things I just feel all weird. I used to write about dating quite a bit. But over the last year, I’ve really stepped back from that. Partially due to being single, but there was also a shift in me as well.

I’m reaching the point where I want my relationships to feel special—to be something special just between me and whomever I’m dating. My blog started feeling like a third person in the relationship. It’s not that I don’t want to share joys or funny stories with you, but I felt like I needed to make sure whomever I was with knew that they were my number one, not my blog.

And while some may not consider it cheating, part of me feels like the date would lose a little bit of sparkle if he only thought to take me on it because I wrote about it on my blog. I mean, props for being concerned enough to try to figure out what I’d like, but I guess I’m kind of a hopeless romantic. I want to believe that there’s still guys out there who know how to woo a girl and make her feel special. (I mean, if he really needs hints, I’m sure my good friend Courtney would be up for some sneaky hint giving.)

And honestly, all a guy really has to do is just make the small effort of telling me and showing me that yes, he really does like me… and I’ll be all swoony for days.

*PS – Dudes: Lego date nights are totally awesome.

  • Love that picture! Legos + Nathan Fillion + Date Night = Perfection

    • Erini

      !!! I KNOW!!! We need a very girly Fillion marathon slumber party to happen. 🙂

  • Jas

    Writing about one’s love life is more of a hassle than anything. So many times I find that it invades another person’s privacy – you know, the one who is NOT the blogger. I think the biggest problem I have with it is the general direction of the content. Writing about relationships doesn’t mean spelling out the personal and private details of your love/sex life.
    Sassy lady in my head says, “Maaaan, some bloggers call it wearing their lives on they sleeve. I jes’ think they be tacky.”

    • Erini

      true, but even the small things become hard.
      you can be so tremendously happy, and your blogger instinct says to share it because you are so tremendously happy… but your heart tells you no, keep this moment just for the two of us. In the end, I know which one to listen to…

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