Getting rejected and feeling more like a writer

26 February 2013

Many months ago I submitted a finished story of mine to a Chicago literary publication.

I was nervous. It was my first completed piece in a while, and I was really attached to it. It had become precious to me—something writers aren’t supposed to let happen. We’re not supposed to get too emotionally attached to our work because once we start submitting it (or hell, even workshopping it), we subject it to all sorts of criticism and sometimes abuse. It’s why I’ve been hesitant to submit it anywhere.

But I did finally submit it, and I knew it would take them a while to respond (per a notice on their submission site). So I eventually forgot about the stress of submitting it. I forgot about the fact people would read this and judge my worth as a writer. I forgot about that typo on my cover letter.

But then last week I finally heard back from the editor.

“Hi Erini:

Sorry we can’t use this, but please do try us again. I’d like to find something that fits [Publication].

Hope the writing is going well!

best,
[Editor]

Rather than being sad about my piece being rejected, I was excited. Please do try us again. He liked my writing. The piece wasn’t the right fit for their publication, but it doesn’t mean it’s a bad piece. I just need to find the right venue for it. It was a spark of hope—a tiny validation that I’m on the right track, that I can do this.

I’m less afraid of submitting now, of sharing my work, of calling myself a writer. Writing is a very mentally and emotionally taxing thing at times, so sometimes my instinct is to hold on to it tight and protect it. I know I’ll still write some terrible pieces. But if I keep writing, somewhere in that jumbled mess or words there will be something amazing.

  • Oh, I just wrote about signing up for a workshop and how it’s scaring the bajeezus out of me. I don’t know how to be unattached from what I write so this should really be a great exercise for me. I hope to adopt your wonderful outlook. And courage. 🙂

  • Good for you! I got many rejections for things, both writing and not, that I was convinced were perfect and right for me. When things eventually began to work out, I realized that I just needed the right opportunities and I would know it when it happened. Your time will come! Keep writing!

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