Self-care Check-in — Real thoughts about Goddess Provision’s Sacred Self Care course, and finishing Week 1 of Stratejoy’s Holiday Council

That was a mouthful of a title! If you’ll remember, I signed up for an 8-week self-care course offered through Goddess Provisions. I was looking for something structured, guided, to help get into a better self-care routine.

We’re finishing off Week 5 of the course, and… I’ve been a bit disappointed, honestly.

We were promised 8-weeks of guided activities, journaling, and meditations, all to connect us to our higher selves. And it’s felt like all we have received are weekly PDFs with two to three pages of actual worksheets, an oracle deck, and access to a Facebook group. There are some women in the group who didn’t even really know who the leaders are. Our weekly activities culminate in requests for us to post a picture which almost feels like an aesthetic contest some times.

Much of this course just feels very surface level. Self-care should be more than just taking walks, bubble baths, and dancing. It’s definitely good to treat yourself to these, but it’s only just the start. I will say, though, I do appreciate that they are covering the importance of boundaries. That might be the most beneficial topic they’ve done thus far. But on top of this feeling like just surface level self-care, it definitely doesn’t feel guided. Outside of the weekly email with the PDFs, we don’t hear from the leaders. If they’re active in the Facebook group, it’s not as leaders, but more just other members.

The shortcomings in the Sacred Self-Care course were made all the more glaring after this first week of Stratejoy’s Holiday Council. HoCo18 is 21 days of delving deep to reflect on the past year and prepare ourselves for the year ahead. It includes 3 live calls (each an hour long), recorded interviews with inspirational women, a 36-page worksheet, a very well put together online portal, and access to a private Facebook group. The big difference, Molly, Stratejoy’s founder, is very involved. She’s been guiding women for 9 years now, and it shows that this is her passion.

In completing my first week workbook, I’ve been hitting those “oh holy crap” moments. It’s like this is exactly what I need in my life right now. I’ve been able to look at and face the hardships from this past year with new eyes, seeing them as opportunities to grow, and events that do not define me. I’ve been called to celebrate the good of this year, however minor. Prior to doing this course, the notion of “pride” wasn’t on my radar. But fuck if I don’t feel proud for the growth I’ve made and how the joy I feel in my life right now.

I’ve met some amazing women in both groups — and was very happy to see friends and familiar faces in the HoCo18 group. While the Sacred Self-Care has been disappointing, I am going to see it through. I think the next two are about creating morning and evening routines, and the final week we’ll reflect back on it all. I am unbelievably excited to continue with HoCo18, even though I know it’s going to go by way too fast!

I was skeptical about Stratejoy at first, but I feel like this might potentially be something I do annually. It’s nice having the guidance as well as just the overwhelming community and support.

Self-care bullet journal (aka attempt number 27 to try bullet journaling)

Ok, so it hasn’t really been 27 attempts, but sometimes it feels that way. I never liked the idea of using a bullet journal as a planner AND a journal… and frankly, as a planner it never worked for me. I’ve tried a few different planners, and really only the ban.dō planners worked for me. I have no real reason why — they’re just basic planners, but something about them I liked and therefore I used them.

Anyway. As I was working my way through my actual journal (above — shown with two other daily pieces of my self-care regiment), I realized I needed something … different. I’ve always been a little envious of creative journaling and whatnot, and wanted my journal to be a bit more than it was. But the thing is.. my journal does work for me. It’s a brain-dump, and frankly, I need that. Yet, I still needed something to supplement that. Something maybe a little more structured, and uniquely focused on self-care.

So. Yet again, I ripped pages out of my failed attempts at bullet journaling, and am trying again.

It’s fairly simple. I’ve got a basic layout that is easy to replicate, therefore it only really takes me maybe 2 minutes to setup the next day. Each area is just to keep track of how I’m doing, and essentially, as best ink on paper can do, hold me a little accountable for taking care of myself.

I’m tracking my mood, activity, water intake, how I hygged, moments of positivity and/or gratitude, what I’d like to improve or let go of, daily health notes, and what action steps I’d like to take to address any issues or just things I need to do. I wanted something that, as I mentioned, was easy to replicate each day but also easy to change if it needed to evolve. It’s also very easy to fill out before bed. Outside of the action steps and what to improve/release, there’s very little actual reflection required of me. I’m able to keep all of that for my journal.

So while I haven’t had a good track record at all with bullet journaling, I’m more optimistic about this one. It’s sort of funny when you start googling “bullet journal” to get ideas… you’ll sometimes find these lists of Do’s and Don’ts… But honestly, there are no rules. And that’s one of the great things about any form of journaling. It’s either what you need, or it isn’t. You just go until you find what works for you — and sometimes that isn’t journaling. Which is totally ok.

I know I’ve asked before, but anyone else doing any self-care journaling?