#reverb10: seeking community, yet being okay without.

I signed up for this thing called #reverb10. A month full of prompts guided to help me reflect on this past year and focus on goals for the next.

December 7: Community.
Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011? (Author: Callie Harris)

In 2010, I didn’t find community in 20-Something Bloggers, like I did in 2009.  I stayed friends with some, and met a few new people — but it hasn’t felt like the same community.

In 2010, I had a community of musicians who’d gather twice a month on this awkward schedule just to play and have fun for a few hours.  But that ended in the spring, when our amazing host and leader began his move to a new studio space… Then it became Mucca tour season.  It’s been enough months I have to wonder if we’ll start up again.  And now because of my new job, I wonder if I can even attend any of these sessions.

In 2010, I attended a writing course/workshop.  I enjoyed it, and I felt like my writing grew.  But I wasn’t a part of that community of writers.

In 2010, I attempted to find community in an Endometriosis support group online.  But I never felt like I could really be included, because I hadn’t actually been diagnosed yet (because I couldn’t afford the surgery that’s required to do so).

In 2010, I discovered friendships and relationships.  I became part of a new team.  But I can’t quite say that I discovered community.  At least, not any that I became a member.

In 2011, I don’t know what communities I’ll discover, or ones that I want to.  I wouldn’t mind reuniting with my community of musicians — I’ve stayed friend with them all, and of course I still support Mucca, but we’re missing that bond formed in making music.  I wouldn’t mind connecting with a group of writers — but I think what I’d want is primarily found in academic programs.  I wouldn’t mind a lot of communities I could possibly join.

But I will say, even though 2010 may have seemed to be lacking in community, it wasn’t detrimental to the year.  As challenging as the year has been, I’ve still grown and I’ve still had support.  Two things I would ask of any community.

I’m sure I’m not actually lacking community, but it’s not on the top of my radar.  And that’s okay.

Please tell me I’m not the only one wanting to make these kind of Community references…